Monday, March 7, 2011

Ambushed!

Yesterday we went to my inlaws for my hubby's "birthday celebration" and it turned out to be another surprise baby shower!  It was a joint shower between both families and there were about 30 family and friends there.  WOW!  Talk about making a girl feel special!

We were very blessed with a LOT of generous gifts.  My worry about not having everything we needed has now faded.  With the exception of a handfull of small items, we are SET!

But now the reality of baby's impending arrival is truly setting in (and so is the fear).  Hubby and I were chatting in the car the other night and we both admitted we're pretty scared about the unknown ahead of us.  Don't get me wrong, we've read the books, we have our last prenatal class tonight, and after what we went through last year, we know what to expect from the labour and birth.  It's the "after" part that's a little intimidating!

I just keep reminding myself, if those foolish girls on Teen Mom can do it, we certainly can!

A friend shared this story this morning and, while it's funny, it feels like a very real depiction of what's in store for us!

Awake Training for Parents: (http://www.babysleepsite.com/awake-training-for-parents/)
Dear Fellow Babies,

OK, here’s my situation. My Mommy has had me for almost 5 months. The first few months were great – I cried, she picked me up and fed me, anytime, around the clock. Then something happened. Over the last few weeks, she has been trying to STTN (sleep thru the night). At first, I thought it was just a phase, but it is only getting worse.

I’ve talked to other babies, and it seems like its pretty common after Mommies have had us for around 5-6 months. Here’s the thing: these Mommies don’t really need to sleep. It’s just a habit. Many of them have had some 30 years to sleep – they just don’t need it anymore. So I am implementing a plan. I call it the Crybaby Shuffle.

It goes like this:

Night 1 – cry every 3 hours until you get fed. I know, it’s hard. It’s hard to see your Mommy upset over your crying. Just keep reminding yourself, it’s for her own good.

Night 2 – cry every 2 hours until you get fed.

Night 3 – every hour.

Most Mommies will start to respond more quickly after about 3 nights. Some Mommies are more alert, and may resist the change longer. These Mommies may stand in your doorway for hours, shhhh-ing. Don’t give in. I cannot stress this enough: CONSISTENCY IS KEY!! If you let her STTN (sleep through the night), just once, she will expect it every night. I know it’s hard! But she really does not need the sleep; she is just resisting the change.. If you have an especially alert Mommy, you can stop crying for about 10 minutes, just long enough for her to go back to bed and start to fall asleep. Then cry again. It WILL eventually work. My Mommy once stayed awake for 10 hours straight, so I know she can do it.

The other night, I cried every hour. You just have to decide to stick to it and just go for it. BE CONSISTENT! I cried for any reason I could come up with:

-My sleep sack tickled my foot.
-I felt a wrinkle under the sheet.
-My mobile made a shadow on the wall.
-I burped, and it tasted like rice cereal. I hadn’t eaten rice cereal since breakfast, what’s up with that?
-The dog said “ruff”. I should know. My Mommy reminds me of this about 20 times a day. LOL.
-Once I cried just because I liked how it sounded when it echoed on the monitor in the other room.
-Too hot, too cold, just right – doesn’t matter! Keep crying!!
-I had drooled so much my sheets were damp and I didn’t like it touching me.
-I decided I was sick of all the pink in my room so I cried.

It took awhile, but it worked. She fed me at 4am. Tomorrow night, my goal is 3:30am. You need to slowly shorten the interval between feedings in order to reset your Mommies’ internal clocks.

Sometimes my Mommy will call for reinforcements by sending in Daddy. Don’t worry Daddies are not set up for not needing sleep the way Mommies are. They can only handle a few pats and shhing before they declare defeat and send in the Mommy.

Also, be wary of the sleep sheep with rain noises. I like to give Mommy false hope that listening to the rain puts me to sleep sometimes I pretend to close my eyes and be asleep and then wait until I know Mommy is settling back to sleep to spring a surprise cry attack. If she doesn’t get to me fast enough I follow up with my fake cough and gag noise that always has her running to the crib. At some point I am positive she will start to realize that she really doesn’t really need sleep.

P.S. Don’t let those rubber things fool you, no matter how long you suck on them, no milk will come out.

Trust me.

Sincerely,
Baby J

2 comments:

  1. What a great feeling when you have all the gear! Congrats on the surprise shower!!

    PS: hope you didn't mind I re-posted that letter from the baby....too funny!

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  2. So sweet of them to give you such a wonderful shower!! I'm glad that you're feeling more prepared now. I've said it before though... You're ready. All you REALLY need is a place for the baby to sleep, something for the baby to eat, something for the baby to wear, and a lot of diapers. The rest is just superfluous. :)

    Don't worry too much about the after. It's tough, but somehow parents do survive, and it's all so worth it!

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