Wednesday, December 29, 2010

27 weeks

Nine months ago I delivered Olivia at 27 weeks, which is where I'm at this week.  It's hard to believe the time has passed so quickly, both since we lost Olivia and also the progress I've made in this pregnancy.  The baby is growing fast, and so is my belly.  At my doctor's appointment last week they said I've gained 12 pounds, which was a bit disturbing but the nurse assured me that most weight spikes happen between 20-30 weeks.

In just 13 weeks our baby will be with us.  In some ways it feels like an eternity, while at the same time the thought of this actually happening is a bit scary!  Will it really happen for us this time?

I have about 2 months of work yet, and we're about halfway through the process of hiring a contract replacement for me.  It's all a bit surreal.  While I want to hire someone who's good and can hold things afloat while I'm off, I'm also conscious of hiring someone TOO good.  Is that selfish?

As I write this post, the baby is kicking my arm, which is resting against my belly.  While this pregnancy is very similar, in other ways it's very different.  This baby feels stronger, perhaps because it is.  I'm also feeling much more physically drained than I was at this point with Olivia.  It gives me reassurance that everything is progressing normally with this pregnancy, and that I shouldn't worry.

But really, until this baby is bundled in my arms, I won't be able to believe for certain that our dream of becoming a family will come true.  And the countdown begins...

Monday, December 27, 2010

Stroller decision

After MUCH research and debate, we decided on the UPPAbaby Vista stroller in black.  I found a great deal at the Baby Land store in Vaughan - $649 on sale from $799 - and that was the clincher!  I love the idea of the bassinet and that I can use it in the house by purchasing a Jolly Jumper bassinet stand for $69.  Not only will we save money (I was looking at a Carter's bassinet for $169), but it means less gear to store and it gives us a portable sleeping option when we're traveling early on.

One big decision down, now to choose a car seat and nursery furniture!  We're off to the Baby Cribs store in Mississauga tomorrow to check out the boxing week deals.  Wish us luck!

Blogging gig for 1st time moms planning to breastfeed

I came across this opportunity on Twitter last week and thought I would share in case any of you are interested in participating.  Full details can be found here:  http://on.fb.me/hqgRpW

Hiring 1st time expectant moms planning to breastfeed to write for Bravado Designs blog

by Danielle Tropea Friedland on Wednesday, December 22, 2010 at 1:39pm

In 2004, I created the Celebrity Baby Blog, which I sold to People.com in 2008. Now I'm the editor of a breastfeeding blog owned by nursing bra company Bravado Designs and looking to hire 4 first time moms who are planning to breastfeed to write about their journey. You can take a look at the blog as it is now: http://www.bravadodesigns.com/connect/bravado-mama-blogs

QUALIFICATIONS
  • Ideally you should be due with your first child February or March.
  • You don't need to be a professional writer but you do need to write well.
  • You don't need to have your own blog or twitter following but it helps if you do.
  • This should be your first child OR the first child you are breastfeeding. For example: you did not attempt to breastfeed your other children or you tried and it didn't work out for whatever reason but are planning to breastfeed the baby you are pregnant with.
  • You do not need to be gung ho about breastfeeding.
  • If you are expecting to give breastfeeding a shot and see how it goes, I want to hear from you.
  • If you're nervous about breastfeeding, I want to hear from you.
  • If you plan to breastfeed to save money, I want to hear from you.
  • If your partner is apprehensive about your breastfeeding, I want to hear from you.
  • I'm also looking for moms of color so please mention if you are one.
  • I'd like at least one mom who was not breastfed so please mention if you weren't.
  • You should live in the US or Canada.
 I'm also looking to hire one DAD whose wife will be breastfeeding their first child. He doesn't need to be the most breastfeeding knowledgable or supportive fellow but needs to write honestly about his feelings and his lady needs to be ok with him writing it.

COMPENSATION AND TIME COMMITMENT
It pays $50 per post for four 300-400 word posts a month plus you get 3 free Bravado nursing bras and a tank. The time commitment is about 6-9-12 months, depending on how the blog is growing, but count on approximately 6 months.

If you're interested, please email me at danielle@daniellefriedland.com and put BRAVADO in the subject line. Tell me a little about yourself and what you do professionally, if you or your partner were breastfed, if you plan to stay home or  return to a previous job, if you have a local support network (like your parents) and please mention if you do have writing experience (even if it was your high school newspaper). If you are planning to return to work outside of your home, tell me a little about your job (what you do, your hours), your employer (supportive or antagonistic or clueless, etc.), your workplace environment (private office, cubicle, etc.), where you'll pump, etc.? If you have a blog or twitter feed, please include that info.

And please forward this to any friends who are in their 3rd trimester that you have!

Danielle Friedland
danielle@daniellefriedland.com
http://daniellefriedland.com/
http://twitter.com/that_danielle
http://www.linkedin.com/in/daniellefriedland
 

Friday, December 17, 2010

The not so pretty side of pregnancy

Last week my mom pointed out that I've been pregnant since October 2009 - 14 months! Sure I had three months "off" after I gave birth to Olivia, but she's right! My body doesn't really know how to be anything BUT pregnant! I looked in my closet and 90% of the clothes are maternity. I'm not even sure if I have "normal" clothes anymore!

Regardless, I am happy, feeling good (the "sickness" is finally letting go) and excited about the arrival of our little one in a few months.

In recent months, however, I've really started to discover the "not so pretty" side of pregnancy that no one really warns you about. Sure, the books make brief reference, but you really don't know what to expect until it happens. Here's a few examples:

What bikini line?

As any pregnant woman can attest, normal grooming habits are thrown by the wayside by about month 5. Firstly, you can't see anything past your belly, so who knows what it looks like "down there". Secondly, shaving your legs gets almost impossible the bigger you get. I've tried it standing up and sitting in the tub, and while the former is easier, I have to bend so far over to reach that I end up with a face full of shower water. Before we went to Florida, I decided to get a bikini wax (of which I've only had two in my life). Seemed like a good idea until I was lying on the table at the mercy of the esthetician. It hurt like hell!!! But ultimately I was happy because it was one less thing to worry about during our trip. Will I do it again? All I can say, is "welcome to the jungle baby!".

Clench and cough (or squeeze and sneeze)

You hear a lot about the importance of Kegel exercises during pregnancy, and don't take them seriously till its too late. Because of the baby's position (right on top of my bladder), every time I cough hard or sneeze, I pee! Its gotten so bad that I'm wearing pads to keep my pants dry. It may sound funny, and maybe it was at first, but now it's downright infuriating! I feel like an 80 year old woman who needs Depends! Not fun...

Oh my aching...heart
 

Those of you who haven't experienced pregnancy heartburn, just you wait! It started for me in month 4. At first I had no idea what it was. It felt like pressure in my upper chest, which eventually turned into painful burning. One day, out of desperation, I decided to try a Tums....and it disappeared! Take my advice and buy a big bottle (and travel packs for your purse). The trigger is usually spicy food, but some days it's everything I eat. So I keep my trusty Tums handy and as soon as I feel the "pressure" starting, I take one to get ahead of it. I recommend the "smooth-eez", they're tasty and have extra calcium!

Swollen....what??!!

Everyone has heard about the infamous "swelling" that happens during pregnancy: hands, face, feet (I miss my heels!) but there's one spot NOBODY warns you about. This is the most recent (and probably the most embarrassing) development. Without graphic details, everything "down there" is swollen and achy (and not pleasant, despite how the books talk about it). I'm going to ask the doctor on Monday and will hopefully get a solution.


Despite all of this (and really, its not as bad as it sounds), I love being pregnant. Especially because I know it's all for a very good cause. I just wish men could get a small dose of what we have the "privilege" of enduring!  What surprises have you come across during your pregnancy?

Thursday, December 9, 2010

Buried under a pile of tissues

I am sick.  And not just sniffles sick, full-blown ill.  On Monday I was suffering from major back pain so I went to have a massage to work out the kinks.  To my dismay, the massage therapist was coughing throughout the session and I could feel her breathing her germs on me as I laid on my back.

On Tuesday (when I was officially 24 weeks along) I started to feel unwell, I was tired, my throat was scratchy and I knew something was coming.  That's when it hit me.  I woke up several times in the night gasping for air, my chest was totally congested and I couldn't breathe.  It was pretty scary and I barely slept.  At 3am I got up and made a chamomile tea and watched the holiday Glee episode because I felt so rotten when I was lying down.

I went to a walk-in clinic on Wednesday morning and the doctor diagnosed me with bronchitis, and possibly strep throat.  Thankfully they were able to prescribe me antibiotics and a steroid puffer to help with my breathing.  Now it's one day later and, while my chest is a little clearer (despite waking up every hour last night due to coughing and chest congestion), my nose is running like a faucet!  I'm also suffering from wicked headaches (thank goodness for Tylenol Extra Strength Rapid Release gelcaps!).

And to top it all off, because of baby's position, I pee everytime I cough or sneeze!  So I either have to clench my legs in preparation, or keep changing my pajama bottoms.

Being pregnant and sick TRULY SUCKS!  But you'd never know it by the way baby keeps kicking away (and probably wondering why I'm making so much noise!).

Here's hoping I'll feel better tomorrow.  Until then, I'm off to devour yet another Riccola cough drop and sleep off this sickness!

Thursday, December 2, 2010

23 weeks!

I feel like I've fallen off the planet for the past week.  Work has been super busy.  But Baby is growing quickly (as you can see from the photo below)!